That emotion warning us something threatening is just about to happen. Life-saving when we are genuinely threatened, damaging when we become constantly anxious: anxiety is tiring – it is meant to be. We are only meant to be anxious for very short periods. When prolonged, it isn’t just tiring – it is exhausting. Sound familiar?
Those of us who prefer calm situations and environments. We prefer to re-charge on our own. We often enjoy losing ourselves in our own thoughts. We tend to prefer small, close-knit, social lives. It doesn’t mean we’re anti-social!
Not all introverts experience anxiety, and you don’t have to be an introvert to struggle with it. Many introverts deal with anxiety, though, so this is quite common.
Here are the key signs you’re an introvert with anxiety:
- You’re more prepared than most others because you’ve already thought through the worst-case scenarios.
- You have a tendency to over-think things and pay too much attention to your negative self-talk.
- You feel you always have to be doing something – being busy (which is often different from being effective) may be a means of trying to cope with the anxiety.
- You tend to prefer routines to novel situations. While this can be fine for periods, boredom and unexpected issues arising can easily throw you in to a spin.
- You’re often nervous without showing it – many become very effective at masking their emotions as a defence mechanism.
- You are more likely to perceive situations as being more dangerous than they really are – anxiety primes us for the fight, flight, freeze response making us more likely to over-react to a low-risk situation.
- You have tendencies towards perfectionism. This is often allied to beliefs such as ‘I need to please everyone’, ‘I need everyone to like me to be a worthy person’.
- Nervousness can throw your chatter in to over-drive: while you normally only speak when you have something significant to say (and you’re normally sure of your facts before speaking), nerves can have you chattering away in an attempt to over-compensate.
- You often have trouble sleeping – either getting to sleep a-tall, waking through the night or waking way too early
Being an introvert with anxiety can be hard. Thankfully there is help at hand. Anxiety in its many guises is one of the most common issues Solution Focused Hypnotherapy helps people with.
Ask yourself: What have I learned from this article that I will adopt today as my own? What is the one thing that has grabbed me, and what will I do about it NOW?