Are You Underestimating Yourself: Probably!

Are You Underestimating Yourself? Signs You’re Doing Better Than You Think

Ever feel like you’re not quite where you want to be? It’s a common sentiment if you’re underestimating yourself – happily discontent can be a resourceful place to be.

It’s not unusual for a person to think they’re doing worse than they actually are: we’re hardwired towards the negative. Some of us are pessimistic, others have limiting beliefs lurking: I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy – progress is just luck, setbacks re-enforce limiting beliefs.

Consider the indicators of those who make it

You learn from setbacks

Rather than dwelling on just the mistakes, you arrive at a balanced view and modify – rather than abandon – your plans to learn and continue growing. You identify any patterns behind repeating the same errors. People have a strong tendency to repeat their behaviours. Responses from the past may have server well then, but perhaps not now. You can choose to respond differently – and achieve different outcomes.

You’re clear on your purpose and priorities

Knowing what you want is the second key step to getting it (knowing who and what you are is the first.) Knowing what you want differentiates you from those who aimlessly floating through life. Once you know what you want, prioritisation becomes easier.

You understanding the difference between important and urgent

We all have 168 hours each week and the choice on how to use them. You focus on what is important. You align your actions with your chosen goals. You have the habit of asking yourself what is the most important thing you could be doing right now. You avoid deluding yourself with merely being busy.

You have made some progress already

Consistent progress is a great sign. Even when your goals feel far in the distance, regular progress – driven by consistent effort and learning – will get you there. As well as planning what more needs to be done, reflect on how far you have already come.

You’re not alone

There are many people are alone in the world. If you’re not alone, you’re doing better than many others. Engaging with people who share your values and aspirations provides encouragement and perspective.

You’re committed

You know who you are and what you’re about. Your goals are clear. They create meaning for you, value for others and legacy for the future. Great things happen when your purpose, actions, and your environment align.

You consider other’s opinions

You learn what is resourceful to you and discard what isn’t. You live your life, not theirs.

You are grateful

You regularly reflect on what has gone well and – crucially – on why it has gone well. You have skills and strengths you don’t even realise.

You’re authentic

You know your values and beliefs. You make your decisions and take your actions consistent with these. Grounded in your values and beliefs, you make decisions that reflect your true self. Your authenticity shines through in your actions, fostering trust and credibility.

When you have aligned your values, beliefs, purpose, actions, and environment you will be doing better than most. This is true, even if the results have yet to reveal themselves.

Authentic Desire + Effective Strategy + Ongoing Persistence = Authentic Results

 

The author, Kevin Whitelaw, is an accredited Solution Focused Hypnotherapist who helps adults across the globe become their best selves. He can be found here: A little about me

 

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