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How To Get Past I Dont Know

We’ve all been there—facing a perplexing issue and finding ourselves stuck, wondering how to get past I dont know. When we hit these roadblocks, it’s easy to say, “I don’t know,” and leave it at that.

However, by recognising the deeper meanings behind our own “I don’t know,” we can uncover what’s truly holding us back. This list isn’t just for understanding others; it’s a powerful tool for self-reflection. By asking ourselves the right questions, we can identify our sources of uncertainty, avoidance, or overwhelm, and take meaningful steps toward clarity and resolution. Let’s turn our sticking points into stepping stones for personal growth and insight.

How to get beyond I dont know
Consider the following meanings of I don’t know and how we can move beyond

Uncertainty: we genuinely don’t have an answer at the moment

What do I think might be a possibility?

What would I like to know?

What might I know if I did know?

 

Lack of Self-Awareness: we may not have spent much time reflecting on the question

What have I noticed about myself recently?

When was a time a time I had a clearer idea?

What would someone close to me say about this?

 

Avoidance: we may be avoiding the question because it’s uncomfortable or difficult

What makes this question difficult to answer?

What do I feel comfortable confronting?

Is there a smaller part of this I can tackle?

 

Fear of Judgment: we may worry about being judged – or maybe judging ourselves – for our true answer

My thoughts exist in my mind only – they have no external reality: do I have to act on them?

There are no wrong answers here: what’s really on my mind?

What are my responses to my thoughts telling me?

 

Overwhelm: we may feel overwhelmed by the question or situation

Let’s take it one step at a time: what’s my first thought?

What’s the smallest thing I am sure about on this?

How can I break this down into smaller parts?

 

Difficulty Articulating Feelings: we know the answer but struggle to put it into words

Can I describe this another way?

What’s a word or image that comes to mind?

What would it sound like, look like, feel like, if I could express it?

 

 

Disconnection: we may feel disconnected from our thoughts or emotions

When was a time I felt more connected?

What helps me feel more in tune with myself?

What’s something that always brings me back to myself?

 

Lack of Clarity: we may not have a clear understanding of our feelings or thoughts

What might bring more clarity to this situation?

What do I need to understand better?

What’s the first step in finding clarity?

 

Protection Mechanism: we may be using ‘I don’t know’ as a defence mechanism to protect themselves

What am I protecting myself from?

How can I create a safe approach to this issue?

What’s a small, safe piece I can tackle?

 

Indecision: we may be uncertain and haven’t made up our mind yet

What are the options am I considering?

What feels right in my gut?

What would help me decide?

 

Need for More Time: we need more time to think about the question

Take your time. What comes to mind first?

What might I know tomorrow?

What support do I need in finding an answer?

 

Distrust: we may not feel comfortable enough sharing our thoughts

What are my safe environments?

How can I make them more comfortable?

What do I need to feel safe?

 

Feeling Pressured: we might be pressuring ourselves to come up with an answer quickly

There’s no rush: what are my initial thoughts?

How can I slow this thought process down?

What would help me feel less pressured?

 

Mind Blank: our mind might go blank due to stress or anxiety

What’s the first thing that popped into my head?

Take a few deep breaths. What am I noticing?

What’s something small I’m aware of right now?

 

Ambivalence: we have mixed feelings and are unsure how to express them

What are the pros and cons I’m weighing up?

What’s one part of this that feels clear?

What might help me resolve these mixed feelings?

 

Lack of Knowledge: we genuinely lack the knowledge or insight to answer the question

What information might help me?

Where could I find the answer?

What do I need to learn more about this?

 

Confusion: we may not fully understand the question or its implications

What’s the part that confuses me most?

What would make this clearer?

How would I explain my confusion to a trusted friend?

 

Habitual Response: we use ‘I don’t know’ as a habitual response

What’s another way I could respond?

What’s beneath my usual response?

How would I answer if I didn’t say ‘I don’t know’?

 

Seeking Reassurance: we might be looking for reassurance before answering

What kind of reassurance would help me right now?

What would be helpful for me right now?

What would best support me in finding an answer?

 

Exploring Boundaries: we could be testing our boundaries

What boundaries am I curious about?

What do I need to know to feel safe?

How can I re-establish boundaries that work for me?

 

So, with the insight you have learned from working through the above, ask yourself:

What have I learned?

What will I now start doing / stop doing / do more of / do less off / do differently

 

The author, Kevin Whitelaw, is an accredited Solution Focused Hypnotherapist who helps adults across the globe become their best selves. He can be found here: A little about me

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